HOLOTROPIC SEXUALITY AND GENDERS

Orlin Baev

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As a representative of the male sex, I experience sexuality through the body of a male individual. All that is said for sex by now concerns both men and women. However, there are differences in experiencing sex by both sexes. During the ordinary intercourse, mainly the man releases power, and the woman accepts it. The accent of the man is on the releasing of power, which brings him pleasure, and the accent of the woman is on the acceptance of this power, which brings her pleasure and safety - these are most frequently unconscious processes, of course. The woman obtains attention, power and joy in a concentrated form, and gives man her warm, tender love and power. If we take a mere economical look at all this, however, the percentage of mutual-exchange is about 70/30. The man releases 70% from his expansive "fiery" power, and obtains only 30% of the mild tender "water" woman’s power. Such is the natural mechanism. The sexual intercourse, the way it is understood by nature, aims the creation of children. During the intercourse, the man releases incomparably large quantity of energy, with which he creates a possibility for the woman to get pregnant and in her turn to look after the future human being for nine months.

If the aim of the couple is the creation of a child, the ordinary sexual intercourse is the most natural and beautiful work of the Nature. However, since the intercourse is not only used for the creation of children, conscious efforts are needed for the purposes of its cultivation and canalizing of its energies, so that it to serve for the overall development of the consciousness of the couple.

The woman would rather experience sex from the position of the feelings and naturally associates it with Love. The ordinary orgasms affect women more unnoticeably, but in qualitatively the same way as with men, i.e. they interrupt the love process till unfinished state and evoke unstable moods. Usually, women do not manage to make a connection between her changeable moods and her "normal" orgasms, because this process passes more mildly and implicitly in them. When she masters her orgasm, she increases the power of her experience during sex very much, intensifies her libido, optimizes her hormonal balance, and learns to realize, increase and master the power of her sexual drive by connecting it to Love. Love, experienced during such a mastered intercourse goes even beyond the most powerful falling in love, which she has ever experienced.

As a rule, men experience sex from the position of the sexual drive, the power. Holotropic sexuality evokes harmonic mutual exchange within the couple. The man limits his loss of power through abstention from ejaculation, learns to be sensitive towards the power of his partner and to a deeper mutual-exchange. The harnessed energy makes his consciousness bloom in the deep transpersonal experiences of love and unity.

Within the couple that practices holotropic sexuality, the energy exchange passes harmonically - 50%/50%. The mastered orgasm develops the sensitiveness and the power of the couple to unknown for them height.

© Orlin Baev
© Galina Markina - translated from bulgarian
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© E-publisher LiterNet, 29.12.2010
Orlin Baev. Transpersonal psychology. Sacred sexuality. Varna: LiterNet, 2010.